When things go well, identify the new demand before interpreting a setback as a secret wish to fail. Success may bring genuine capacity problems as well as visibility or uncertainty.

A worked situation: Two additional clients

Fictional example. A freelancer gains two clients and starts missing delivery dates. Her capacity estimate, the agreed scope, and her communication need checking before assigning an unconscious motive.

Work through these questions: Two additional clients

Question or fieldFictional completed example
New demand?Two additional clients
Capacity fact?Available weekly hours
Observed setback?Missed delivery date
Available repair?Renegotiate scope and timing
Hypothesis to avoid?I secretly want failure

Check what changed when things began going well

Success can bring a real increase in work or a new agreement. Record that change before assigning a hidden desire to fail. Then identify the observed setback and a feasible repair or negotiation. The secondary-gain question remains a hypothesis; neither the example nor the book proves why a particular person disrupted a favorable situation.

A relevant author lens: The Sweet Necrosis of the Victim Role

The limits of an ordinary example

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